Solo Mom trip Day 4: Zero Plans (!)

As I mentioned yesterday, I’d had hopes of snorkeling while here. Well, sometimes reality takes hold and changes the plan. Thanks to some sunburn and highs of 69 degrees and 25 mph winds, I opted NOT to go on the 7 hour snorkeling and boating adventure. One important lesson parenting has taught me is “Quit while you are ahead.”

The sun finally came out at 4pm

Since I decided to skip the snorkeling and poolside, I planned my day around food. I hadn’t yet explored the buffet, not for any good reason except I didn’t know where it was yet. I hunted it down for lunch as online reviews gave high praise.

Pro tip (not medical advice): if you skip breakfast, you have more room for lunch. The buffet spread was vast and international including ceviche, sushi and even hotdogs.

After lunch I stopped by The Vine Bar to sit down and formulate a game plan. Little did I know but my “plan” turned out to be having drinks and fun with two amazing Hungarian women, tequila shots and all. At 4 they decided they should probably eat lunch, so we parted ways and I headed for a walk.

Toes in the sand

4 pm turned out to be the first time today the sun made its presence. A bit disappointing but my reality was with a bit of sunburn, I wasn’t going to be lounging poolside catching rays anyway. I walked for an hour and headed back inside to regroup.

The resort has daily activities including live music. I sat and watched a saxophonist, pianist and a Broadway singer while sipping a cold glass of Sauvignon Blanc. She seemed to appreciate the applause, while I found myself pining for home, thinking of our mini concerts Lidia, our au pair, treats us to.

For dinner I chose the Italian restaurant, Nebbiolo. I was able to be seated and immediately, but was not rushed to make a choice. Time here is in a nice balance – not like some countries where things seem to happen too slowly or in a rushed way, here time is less intrusive.

Alas, tomorrow I head home. I won’t lie and say I wouldn’t mind another day here, but I feel sufficiently recharged and with some renewed perspective. Esta es la razón que viajamos, ¿no?

-Steph

Solo Mom Trip, Day 3: Mexico instead of St Maarten

Today was my first full day here in Cancun. I arrived after dark last night, so I wasn’t able to appreciate much of the resort until daylight.

I took my time getting out of bed and may have spend a full hour in the dual head rain shower before lathering myself in sunscreen and climbing into one of three bathing suits I brought.

I sat next to a nice couple from Canada – they both work in healthcare, so we had some good conversation about the state of affairs in both the US and Canada. We tried not to talk too much shop but sometimes you can’t help it.

Despite dousing myself in SPF50, I still managed to get too much sun today. The older I get, the harder it is to protect my pale self – I’m starting to see why old ladies like big hats and linen outfits.

This afternoon I went to the spa for a hydrosubmersion experience and massage. I didn’t exactly know what a hydrosubmersion experience was but figured the surprise might be part of the fun. Turns out you sit in a dry sauna for 10 minutes, a steam room for 10 minutes, then do a full-body submersion in 11 degree water à la a Polar Plunge. Immediately after that, you enter the last pool which is not quite a hot tub. It was fun to try, but the massage was what I was really there for.

There are six restaurants at the resort offering everything from local Mexican fare to Asian Fusion. I ordered lunch poolside – three Shrimp Tacos which was just the right amount of food for me. I was happy to see they weren’t serving “American-sized” portions. For dinner, I’d decided yesterday to try Dragons, the Asian Fusion spot. It’s casual dress, but with a menu spanning Japanese, Thai, Vietnamese and Chinese or maybe a mix of all of the above.

I think the sun wiped me out a bit. I found myself back in the room at 7:30pm, in Jammie’s again after another hour-long shower.

I booked a snorkeling trip for tomorrow but am now reconsidering given the sun exposure. It may be safer to hang back here at the resort in the shade rather than on a boat where I’ll have less flexibility to dodge the sunshine. I’m going to sleep on it and decide in the morning.

-Steph

Solo Mom Adventure, Day 2

I typically reserve this space for reports of family travel adventures. Traveling with kids is a special kind of hard, all of which I’ve been reminded of since embarking upon this most recent Louka journey.

Me with #1LittleSister

School was cancelled all last week due to snow that quickly transformed to ice. Our au pair was stranded in Orlando at the beginning of the storm, my husband facing stranding in Tampa at the end of the week. I held down the fort at home, just happy this all landed when I wasn’t scheduled to work.

My husband said “take a few days – just you. Go somewhere warm and relax.” I fought him at first – that’s not practical, that’s money we don’t have… who will do _____? But he kept pushing, and I realized he meant it. I said yes.

The initial plan was St Maarten Sonesta Maho Resort. If you follow us, you may remember we went there in January 2023. Alas the weather gods did not have that in their plans for me. I thought I’d be safe connecting in Charlotte, NC but of course the day I chose to travel there was a winter storm there dumping 12” of snow, an all time record for the city.

Wee bit of snow at CLT

My flight to St Maarten was supposed to leave at 9:30am. I’ll spare you the back and forth which involved two trips back to the gate and a 1 hour de-icing of our plane, only to be the last plane de-iced before the entire airport shut down for the night. They cancelled the flight, and four hours later, the flight they’d rescheduled me on as well.

Exhausted, I crashed at an airport hotel, which was not easy to get to. Initially I was fighting with 300 other people to get an uber to take me 1.5 miles in 12” of snow. I quickly realized this was not the time to be cheap, ordered up the Uber Black (SUV) and skipped the line.

That turned out to be a good call as we passed 4 sedans that had run off the road or been abandoned after getting stuck in the snow. In just 1.5 miles. I crashed at the Charlotte Suites, just happy to have a safe place to sleep for the night.

This morning I awoke recharged and ready to formulate a new plan. Realizing breakfast might be my only meal of the day as the airport had closed all restaurants due to staffing issues, I stocked up on sausage and fruit.

For the love of all travel gods, Expedia refunded my entire trip since there was no way to get to St Maarten for at least 48 hours. That allowed me to start fresh and rebook an entirely new trip. But where to? How does one decide?

With a lot of help from Amir, I’d narrowed it down to San Juan, Puerto Rico or Cancun, Mexico as those both allowed me to get there same day rather than losing another day. Ultimately I picked Mexico, probably since I’ve somehow never been there (aside from a cruise stop 20 years ago) and would be able to practice my Spanish.

With some help from Ale, our former au pair from Mexico, I picked a resort and pulled the trigger. My flights departed and arrived without issue – a fresh change.

Sunset on the flight

Tomorrow I’ll explore this place – I booked a massage for 4pm but otherwise just plan to wander and relax. There’s a freedom in being here alone, but I’ve already caught myself wondering what Amir or the kids would think about this or that.

-Steph

St Thomas Day 8: Phantasea Tropical Botanical Garden and a view from on high

We’d originally committed to hanging out at our house and eating all day, since everything that’s left in the pantry is double the price back home.

Making the most out of these last moments here

After breakfast, brunch, lunch and then snacks, we decided to escape the house for at least a bit. None of us were motivated to pack up all the towels and gear for a beach outing, so a quick visit to the shaded Phantasea Tropical Botanical Garden seemed just what was needed.

There’s nothing flashy about this place – and that’s exactly the point. The women’s at the ticket booth told us she only works on Sundays, a tranquil escape from her otherwise stressful regular job.

Water garden with tadpoles

The experience starts right at the ticket booth. There are lizards who make their home at the gate, just waiting for specific sweets from guests. The kids quickly found a water garden sheltering new tadpoles and minnows, plus a bird friend who greets all the guests. In the first minute there we saw hummingbirds, geckos, chickadees, chickens and parakeets. The crowd was pleased.

The pathways are narrow, palm trees wrapped with orchids, vines and air plants – symbiosis is everywhere. You have to look up as well as down to ensure you don’t miss a little plant or critter.

It’s very kid friendly – no steep hills or rocky terrain, but it wouldn’t work well for guests with decreased mobility. There’s no hope of getting a stroller in here, so bring a baby carrier or toddler backpack if you think your little one won’t walk.

We all lost each other at some point, but no one was worried as the place is relatively small, and you can always hear someone even if you can’t see them.

There are numerous places to sit down and rest, write or relax. These guys liked the terraces as they seemed to attract a lot of geckos.

If you’re a photog like me, and/or an old plant lady (or maybe both), add this place to your itinerary. It was a great break from the heat and sand of a typical beach day.

Air plants for sale

There’s a small area near the ticket booth where you can buy plants to take home. Apparently as long as there’s no soil, you can take one on the plane and back into the US. I was tempted.

Soaking in the last of pool time

Just up the hill from Phantasea is Mountain Top, a fairly touristy but fun stop offering souvenirs, world famous banana daiquiris and breathtaking scenic views of the islands below. We partook in all three, then headed back to our house to slow down a bit before dinner.

Tonight I’ll begin the packing and cleanup process. We have to be out by 10:30am with our flight departing at 4:45pm back to Dulles.

~Steph

Occupants of my bed last night

St Thomas Day 7: St John & Cinnamon Beach

Last night we enjoyed an amazing dinner with Dee and Patrick at Caribbean Fish Market. We started with a seafood tower because, well, work hard play hard.

Seafood Tower

There were at least 7 types of fish, including Everything Seasoning encrusted salmon, grilled whole red snapper with spicy hoisin, and seasame rolled wahoo over sticky rice and seaweed salad. Everyone loved what they ordered.

Whole Red Snapper

Dee and Patrick were also able to give us the scoop on the ferry over to St. John. We planned to leave the house by 9:30am to catch the 10:30 ferry, the Big Red Barge. Somehow we were early in leaving the house (I know right??), and it turns out we’d need that time. The ferry filled fast and left port by 10:20am. If we’d been on our intended schedule, we’d have missed it for sure.

St Thomas on the left, St John on the right

It took more time for the cars to load onto the ferry than the actual transit across from St Thomas to St John. We set an alarm for 1:30pm, aiming for a 3:30pm ferry, to ensure we wouldn’t get stuck for the night.

Rooster at the Ferry dock

St. John is small with multiple beaches to choose from. We’d decided to drive a bit further out in hopes of avoiding crowds. Trunk Bay is popular for snorkeling, but it seemed everyone else had the same idea. There were not only no parking spaces, but every space that could be created by a JEEP balanced on 3 wheels and a boulder was also occupied. We carried on further into the Virgin Islands National Park.

Cinnamon Beach, St John, Virgin Islands

The next beach after Trunk Bay was Cinnamon Beach, just 4 minutes up the road. In an epic Dad move, Amir snagged the last parking spot in the lot.

#1BigSister and Amir in Floaty McFloatface Jr

The beach today was extremely windy, so we snagged a spot shaded from the wind and sand by mangrove trees. This was a good strategic move on our part, as I’d later watch other families relocate 2 and 3 times for better shelter.

Disapproving of our location

I spent a good portion of the time snorkeling while Amir, Ale and the kids played in the sand and floated on Floaty McFloatface, II. The water proved a great escape from the whipping wind and sand.

We packed a picnic in the cooler which I highly recommend. There’s a nice concession stand and bar at Cinnamon Beach, but having a cooler right there with us made satiating hungry swimmers much easier.

We were obedient when our 1:30pm alarm went off, packing up our things and hiking back to our exceptionally parked car.

On the Big Red Barge ferry

We arrived at the ferry with plenty of time to spare, and a crew that probably needed to call it quits an hour earlier. There hasn’t been much napping happening on this trip, despite me desperately wanting to take one.

Mini Me & Me on the ferry

We stopped for fruit smoothies on the way home, a deliberate attempt to shush the chatter of three exhausted kids acting up due to lack of sleep and way too much CapriSun. It worked. I’m filing it away for use again in a desperate situation.

Tomorrow is our last full day here as we fly home Monday morning. We still have a fair amount of food to get through, so we’re debating spending the day at the house just eating, swimming, drinking and eating. Cost-U-Less wasn’t cheap after all. I think I’m game for another lazy day at home.

~Steph